|Anonymous » hello! i saw your recent post and thought i'd chime in as a lesbian myself. for me personally, somebody who identifies themself using the term 'boy' or something of the like and also calling themself a lesbian makes me uncomfortable. lesbianism is, i feel, something only women (whether trans or cis) experience, but not people who are in some way male-identifying. i'm no expert or academic or anything, though, so take this with a grain of salt.|
i appreciate your perspective and i’m sure you’re not the only person who feels this way. the reason why i’m hesitant to take part in anything lesbian-related is b/c i don’t want to make people like you feel uncomfortable or alienated in any way, b/c you definitely have more right to ownership of those things than i do. thank you for your input.
Our first assignment for the year was to do an editorial illustration about the conflict in Ferguson. Really hitting the ground running here. My intention was to focus on the use of cell phones and social media (specifically twitter) as a source of news & information, while the mainstream media was either absent or inaccurate/biased. I didn’t intentionally reference the Black Power fist symbol when doing my thumbnails, but I think my subconscious knew better. I feel kind of weird making art about this whole conflict, as a white person, so I hope I did the topic some modicum of justice.
My heart goes out to everyone in Ferguson, and I can do nothing but applaud the strength of our black brothers & sisters from the sidelines and try to amplify their words as best I can. Stay strong.
i just spent almost three hours hanging out w/ my trans friends and talking abt gender things and holding hands w/ donut while donut stroked/kissed my hand and i got drunker and drunker so im jsst like. on cloud 9 right now and i feel really good things about everyone. my life is going rly good rn and i feel lots of hope abt my future & my ability to maintain being a Good and Functional and Whole person. i love all of u thank u for tolerating my bad times and celebrating w/ me in my good times all of u are good ppl and i wish u the best
i think no matter who i have a relationship with it’s hella gay everything i do is hella gay every hair on my head. hella. gay.yeah i agree i feel exactly the same way
im going to tentatively make a post about this b/c ive asked at least one person for advice on this but i feel like maybe other people could also give me advice. its about gay girl stuff
everything’s so funny when u use the wrong measurement:
- 5 gallons of homework
- mouthful of lint
- 20 degrees of facial oil
- 7 pints of china
- handful of fergi
- 60 mph of dad
for months i felt like trash and was questioning my feelings abt Being A Boy at all b/c of moneycat constantly pushing “being a dude in any way is morally wrong and bad for you and everyone around you and you shouldn’t do it” and it made me feel like garbage
|shaggiest » okay i am a dfab nb person and a stranger, so apologies if this is inappropriate, but i am wondering how you feel about how cat treated trans men? do you think "don't be a dude" is as broadly important as she promoted? i am not transmasculine, and i am not asking for permission to be a dude or anything. i just really need to rethink my perspective on this.|
the praxis that cat publicly argued for was for everyone to become non-men, so transitioning TO manhood was anathema to all that she stood for and it showed. I found her take on trans maleness hostile, irresponsible, and utterly lacking in pragmatism
since she needed to reconcile a free and open concept of transness with her distaste for FTM transition, she pleaded with questioning AFAB people either to settle for nonbinariness, or more bizarrely, to embrace a form of AFAB trans womanhood (an incoherent category, in my view)
"don’t be a dude" is unreasonable praxis on so many levels. much more valuable is "don’t embrace those toxic behaviours which our society inappropriately conflates with dudeness". the latter is advice that I think ought to be considered by all men, trans or cis, as well as nonbinary or bigender folks like myself who are not fully removed from maleness
this is all im going to reblog but i gotta say that the literally dozens of posts in the moneycat tag rn saying “her words influenced my gender politics really strongly even though they felt wrong to me sometimes and now im rethinking a lot of things and am glad that people dont agree w/ the parts of her politics that made me feel alienated” are ringing rly true for me and this is the biggest one
im kinda thrown cause i also drank the moneycat koolaid along with a lot of other people and seeing a ton of trans ppl (esp trans women) coming out to say “hey being a trans dude isn’t actually morally reprehensible in and of itself and saying so was fucked up” is extremely comforting. i was feeling super alienated by seeing that kind of thing spouted constantly by the kind of person i admired and now that lots of people are speaking out against it, its. really good. thank you.
if cr1tikal were a personality core