ive been sick since yesterday and i just feel miserable and i worked 7 hours today followed by 2 hours of driving around kansas city trying to find a target and then subsequently finding the mysteriously hidden toilet paper within said target and i’m fuckin exhausted

i also took out my septum ring yesterday because i was sniffly and disgusting and didn’t try to put one back in until today and it won’t fit. i’m trying to figure out whether its worth it to try and stretch the thing back up myself (im trying now and it’s really not fun, but the piercing place that has helped me do this kind of thing in the past and that originally did my septum/labret is now closed) or just give up and not have a septum piercing anymore, since i don’t want/can’t afford to get it re pierced.

i also have to be awake in 9 hours for another work shift tomorrow morning, after which i have to clean my room and empty my closet and do laundry in preparation of the exterminator coming to finally get rid of these goddamn bedbugs that we’ve had for literally a month

i’m feeling pretty bad all around tbh. not a good day and i’m already feeling kind of down about myself and anxious about school starting so im just. kinda fallin apart here. falls into bed

I am about to say something very opinionated and rude so if you’re easily offended don’t read


Demigender isn’t a real thing. As someone who struggles with actual dysphoria and real gender issues, it’s almost insulting to hear someone that’s like ‘I feel apathetic toward my gender’. Then you’re a fucking cis person that doesn’t give a fuck about gender roles. And honestly I have so much more respect for people that just outright say ‘I’m cis but fuck the haters I do what I want’ than someone who tries to be a special snowflake by inventing a gender.

I am putting this in the Demingirl, Demiboy, and Demigender tags in hopes that someone may change my mind. If it is explained to me in a way that doesn’t sound like an imaginary thing that a 14 year old came up with because they were feeling oppressed, I may have a change of heart. But right now it seems as useless as Bunny pronouns. But that is a different rant post for a different day.

i’m responding to this because you asked for responses, so here you go:

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im creepin through that person’s selfies and trying not to faint. they look like if scarlett johanssen and miley cyrus had a very strong child……

so today i got an email saying jacqueline chanda, the president of kcai, decided to resign? i’m not sure what this means for students or why it happened. i remember earlier this year she got a vote of “no confidence” from the board at the school but i’m not sure what that means either. i’m nervous about what’s going on and why and i wish they would give us more information about what’s happening at our school.

like, really, what kind of criteria can you come up with for who gets to qualify as Real Trans that isn’t like, really fucked up and incomplete and not compatible with peoples actual experiences

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i included some references to fight club in my last essay for my Western Thoughts On Death & Dying class this summer and im a little bit surprised that it wasnt on the recommended reading list b/c a lot of it deals w/ death and anti-consumerism

i havent really studied it or read what other people have said about it who HAVE studied it but i think it has a lot of interesting things to say. i dunno what real viable conclusions it ends up with other than “consumerism is bad” because obviously tyler durden’s conclusion of “blow up everything and live in the woods like Ye Olden Times” isnt really a viable one for the world at large, but maybe it doesn’t really try any harder than that, i dunno. i should probably reread it, i haven’t read it in a really long time

like bronies would be really cool if they were more like “wow, a cool show for little girls! awesome! it’s all about friendship and solving problems without being shitty to anyone. little girls are rad and it’s good shows like this exist for them. ” and not “let me focus my entire interest in this show on how much i want to fuck that horse. also little girls are shit and they can get out because this is mine now.”

trans and then double trans, then triple trans. mega trans. ultra trans. chunky trans swirl



when i think about a future where i’m doing drag king shit, i think of that as being more trans. not because afab trans culture is more authentic or w/e but because that’s the product of a longer and more intense personal journey and evolution than where i was a year ago or where i am now. if i ever wound up being taken even remotely seriously i’d throw that away even harder than i threw away being a man in the first place because trans is a game and i play it to win

from a cisnormative perspective this is going backwards and forwards over and over, from my perspective this is a continuous journey forwards. whatever endpoint i reach when i die is the product of however many years i’ve been alive and i don’t think going backwards is possible

what if a future where everyone just kind of cycles through different versions of transness for their whole lives, like gender inception. we have to go deeper





rick and morty is my favorite cartoon but it also contains a lot of jokes that probably deserve a content warning. in order to keep recommending this show, i wanted to go through every episode and compile a list of Troubling Things that people…

Its a fucking tv show why do you have to dissect it like this.

Jesus, the smallest things can offend people these days.

yes you’re right everyone who has ever been assaulted and doesn’t want to be casually reminded of that fact while trying to watch a cartoon or is uncomfortable with the sight of gore should just put on their big kid undies and get over it. you are definitely a cool person with a lot of empathy and understanding of the concept of “triggers” and the point of content warnings.

i literally just made a list of content warnings for people who don’t want to see certain things so that they can be warned about them and avoid them if those things upset them. it isn’t about being “offended” or being some kind of morality police— i literally do not care about most of the shit in this show, and i haven’t said a single thing about whether i think it’s funny or no big deal or terrible that tv shows have jokes like this. i pointed out that honestly it’s one of my favorite cartoons and i think its side-splittingly hilarious 90% of the time. i’m merely pointing out the fact that, even in a good show that i love, jokes about upsetting concepts exist and where, so that people who don’t want to participate in them because they don’t find those things funny (usually because casual jokes like that can remind people of seriously traumatic events) can avoid them.

please grow some empathy, and until then, find a different hobby than getting a hair up your butt about this stuff. i think it’s pretty obvious who is actually offended by this, and it’s you.